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Welcome to another episode of the Style
and Strategy podcast.
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Today, I'm so excited to introduce
Danielle Hofer, the founder of Crying in
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Today, I'm so excited to introduce
Danielle Hofer, the founder of Crying in
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My Cheesecake.
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I've had the pleasure of knowing Danielle
really now for, has it been, I think about
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I've had the pleasure of knowing Danielle
really now for, has it been, I think about
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18 months or so, and she's made a
significant impact in my life.
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And I'm very privileged to count her as
one of my close friends.
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So Danielle is a trans, excuse me.
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So Danielle is a trans, excuse me.
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Danielle is a traditional naturopathic
doctor, nutritional therapy practitioner,
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and a certified prenatal postpartum coach.
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She has a robust background in education
and strong dedication to health and
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wellness.
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She's turned her own personal health
challenges into a really successful
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business.
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Danielle's work focuses on helping
individuals achieve optimal health.
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through root cause solutions that honor
the innate intelligence of the body
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through functional nutrition and lifestyle
support.
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Danielle, welcome to the Style and
Strategy podcast.
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my gosh, Sonia, thank you so much for
having me and who would have thought I
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would be in a style and strategy podcast.
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This is so much fun.
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Absolutely.
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Look, Danielle, you know, part of this
podcast has always been talking about
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career transitions, personal brand, as
well as style.
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So just I'd love for you to just kind of
take me back a little bit and talk to me
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really around what were some of the
pivotal moments in your life that got you
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to transition from sort of teaching and
then becoming this traditional
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naturopathic doctor?
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Like, how did you even get there?
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goodness.
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So I follow with me here as a young child
of a very political family.
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So I follow with me here as a young child
of a very political family.
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And my dad was a deputy sheriff for 40
some years.
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And my dad was a deputy sheriff for 40
some years.
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And my mom was the town beautician.
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And so I was always living in a fishbowl.
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And so I was always living in a fishbowl.
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And I knew that I had to perform and I
knew that I had to I had giftings.
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And I knew that I had to perform and I
knew that I had to I had giftings.
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I knew that I had wisdom.
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I got the honor of sitting around
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lots of prominent men in the community and
all of this.
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And over the time, even the things that I
played as a child was I was a teacher.
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And over the time, even the things that I
played as a child was I was a teacher.
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And over the time, even the things that I
played as a child was I was a teacher.
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I was a teacher to everybody and anybody
around me.
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And even as I moved into teenage years,
you know those years that you feel like
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you start to go through this rebellion and
all of that, even then I was still
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you start to go through this rebellion and
all of that, even then I was still
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teaching.
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My friends came to me.
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to be taught things, not necessarily about
school.
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Yes, there were school things, but it was
just this idea of teaching.
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And so I went to college and became a
teacher and middle school, seventh and
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And so I went to college and became a
teacher and middle school, seventh and
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eighth grade English were my favorite.
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And I did inner city class.
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I taught inner city and they like middle
schoolers.
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We call them middle schoolers.
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They are my favorite creature in the world
because every day is so different with
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them.
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And every day is a day to teach them.
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And eighth grade, honestly, is the last
time that you can put impact on changing
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who an adult is going to be, who that
child is going to be as an adult.
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So at 14 years old, it was such an honor
and such, it gave me so much joy to
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support these children going into their
adulthood and seeing, you know, just
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having that last impact, right?
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Like, and I'm not saying we don't have
impact.
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throughout as we get older, other people
impact us.
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But really, if you think about it, when
you were 14 years old, your same
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insecurities are the same when you're an
adult.
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They're the exact same ones.
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They may look different, they may manifest
different, but they're the same.
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And so I became a teacher, and then when I
became a mom, inner city schools, at least
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here in the Midwest and across the states,
inner city, when you think of inner city
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schools, we think of gang members, we
think of unhoused,
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schools, we think of gang members, we
think of unhoused,
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children, children that are 13 and 14,
raising siblings.
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children, children that are 13 and 14,
raising siblings.
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children, children that are 13 and 14,
raising siblings.
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We think of lots of just family dynamics
different than what a traditional family
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We think of lots of just family dynamics
different than what a traditional family
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would be.
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And it's very hard.
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And it required all of me to be there.
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It required me to be mom.
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And sometimes they would call me mom.
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But it would require a lot of me.
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And I wanted to raise my own children.
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So I let that go.
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And then we're talking about this
transition of even style.
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So I was over 300 pounds at this time,
okay?
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And I want you to have this idea of I'm
five foot 10, I'm not sure what that
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translates to, but I'm five foot 10, I am
tall, I am broad, I'm a big girl.
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And as a teacher, it really did work for
me because I was around all these big
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teenage boys, right?
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It was great.
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But my style then, when I look back at it
and how I felt in my clothes.
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I felt like I had to look a certain way.
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I had to dress a certain way.
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And I had to be at this place of what
would my mom approve of?
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What would my dad approve of?
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Now I was in my 20s, right?
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Like I'm still trying to please my family
and what other people think I should.
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And it didn't help that we had to wear
suits on Mondays at work.
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As teachers, we had to wear suits.
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And I understand like every...
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I'm not putting that down by any means,
but also in my mind, it reinforced that I
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had to look a certain way.
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And I had, I wore, I don't even know, but
brown was the color.
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And I had, I wore, I don't even know, but
brown was the color.
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And I had, I wore, I don't even know, but
brown was the color.
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And my husband made fun of me because
everything I wore was brown.
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And it wasn't just because it was stylish,
but I felt like I could hide.
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It wasn't black, because I feel like black
is...
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It wasn't black, because I feel like black
is...
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Black is professional, it's sleek, it's
mod, like black is always in.
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And the brown for me allowed me to mute
in.
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And that also kind of reflected how I was.
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I was very depressed, I was very anxious,
I was on medicines for all of these things
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and my blood pressure was insanely high as
a teacher, which that's, I mean, sadly
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and my blood pressure was insanely high as
a teacher, which that's, I mean, sadly
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and my blood pressure was insanely high as
a teacher, which that's, I mean, sadly
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that's part of the profession, but I come
from a long line of diabetes and heart
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disease and.
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I was over 300 pounds.
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Trying to have a baby, had lots of
infertility struggles, had the morning of
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coming home and not being a teacher
anymore, not having that identity as a
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teacher anymore.
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My wardrobe reflected how I felt about
myself.
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I'd lost my identity.
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I was in gym clothes all the time.
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And if you can call them gym clothes, they
were actually tattered rags from high
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school.
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And I lost everything about myself.
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And then as we continue, we did, we had to
do fertility to get pregnant.
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And then as we continue, we did, we had to
do fertility to get pregnant.
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And then as we continue, we did, we had to
do fertility to get pregnant.
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And as I was nursing my second child in
the heart hospital in Northeast Indiana,
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waiting on my dad to come out of a
quintuple bypass surgery, we're talking
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five arteries were bypassed.
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He was on a bypass machine for at least 12
hours, maybe more.
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They warned us that he would come out and
it would be scary because they come out on
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a ventilator and they're not breathing on
their own because the machine had breathed
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for them for those hours.
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And I was nursing my daughter, my second
child, and I was not scared.
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I had no fear because I assumed, because
heart disease had been such a prevalent
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thing.
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My dad's first heart attack was when he
was 42 and I was 11.
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you
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I saw a worldview of low fat diet, like
dieting all the time.
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I saw this as like, this was my, like this
was the next thing on my list.
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So at 30 years old, I thought this was
normal or 28 years old, I'm sorry, 28
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So at 30 years old, I thought this was
normal or 28 years old, I'm sorry, 28
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years old.
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I thought this was just normal.
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It was on par for the course.
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They do these surgeries all the time.
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What could go wrong?
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He's gonna survive.
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And my wake up call was soon after.
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Yep.
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My dad wasn't the same anymore.
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While he was alive, he was not there
mentally.
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And how could he be?
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A machine was pumping blood for him and
moving oxygen through his body.
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He was not there.
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And his mental health declined, his whole
health declined.
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And I'm not saying that he hasn't had
other things in the past, like the
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diabetes and the other heart issues and
things.
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But that was my wake up call.
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something was not normal.
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Something needed to change in my life.
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And I would love to say that that changed
everything for me, but I am hard headed.
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I am an educator.
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Like I want to learn all the things and
not do all the things, right?
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I want to know everything, but not put it
into play.
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And so it wasn't until, I think it was
February of 2018,
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And so it wasn't until, I think it was
February of 2018,
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And so it wasn't until, I think it was
February of 2018,
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I went for, it was President's Day weekend
in February of 2018, and I went for a hike
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on my first mountain, sitting over 300
pounds.
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I'd already had all three children, and I
climbed my first mountain.
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And I've always been an athlete.
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I've always been a high achiever in
everything.
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And while every step, because again,
living in the Midwest, we have no altitude
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here.
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Like everything's just flat.
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So climbing a mountain at a definitely a
different altitude, it took my breath
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away.
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But so did that experience on the top.
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Looking out over Lake Spooner and then
behind that was Lake Tahoe, something
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Looking out over Lake Spooner and then
behind that was Lake Tahoe, something
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finally connected.
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And I realized...
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I had lost myself in serving everyone
else's needs, including pleasing my
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employer, pleasing my mom, pleasing my
dad, pleasing them, whoever them is, on
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how I'm raising my children.
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And I realized as well that I hadn't belly
laughed.
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I'm a belly laugher.
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Sonia, you know this.
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I belly laugh over everything.
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I'm loud.
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I hadn't belly laughed.
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in years and I laughed so hard that I fell
on ice and thought I broke something.
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It was funny and I was laughing.
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At that moment was that pivotal change in
my mind.
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And I wonder how many of us that are
overachievers that want to learn all the
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things and we want to say we want to do
all the things, but we don't realize how
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things and we want to say we want to do
all the things, but we don't realize how
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intertwined our outsides, like how our
outsides are matching our insides.
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intertwined our outsides, like how our
outsides are matching our insides.
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And that includes fashion.
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And I don't mean fashion as in like, are
you on the latest trends?
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I mean how you present yourself, right?
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And so that transformed, and that is
actually why my brand has mountains in it.
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Because it's the mountain that changed me,
and there's always gonna be another
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mountain in front of us.
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It's just how are we, how mentally and
physically in shape are we to climate?
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It's just how are we, how mentally and
physically in shape are we to climate?
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It's just how are we, how mentally and
physically in shape are we to climate?
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How relationally are we in line to
climate?
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Do we have the support network?
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Do we have the right people in our corner?
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Do we have people to push us and drag us
and pull us?
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And do we have people to cheers with at
the top?
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And that started my transition of, okay, I
need to lose some weight.
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I know now that weight loss is not a root
cause, weight issues are actually a
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surface level thing.
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But I lost a bunch of weight, super fit,
super lean.
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But then all of a sudden I started having
cystic acne breakout.
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And I'm like,
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How is this possible?
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I'm like really healthy right now.
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My labs look great.
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Like everything looks great.
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How is that possible?
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Well, I was eating low fat, no fat,
everything and choosing to eat like fast
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all day so I could eat a large pizza for
dinner and there was no vegetables.
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There was no, none of, you know, all the
things.
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And then I realized that if food can
affect me that much, that must mean that
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food can also heal me.
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And then that's when I chose to go in the
direction of the nutritional therapy
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practitioner.
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And then the limitation is like nutrition
doesn't fix me.
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but there's a whole root cause.
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There's a whole innate intelligence of the
body that we can work with and we can
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create this space of working with it so it
can heal.
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It speaks, the body is speaking.
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When we have a weird headache or we have
this weird eye twitch that happens, I
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When we have a weird headache or we have
this weird eye twitch that happens, I
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don't know, am I talking to some neurotic
people like me?
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If we have constipation, if we're not
going to the bathroom two to four times a
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day, those are all signs, craving sugar.
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day, those are all signs, craving sugar.
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craving caffeine, all of those things are
signs and the body is talking to us.
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And what it's saying is it needs to heal,
it needs you to give it what it needs.
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And it doesn't always start with food.
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So that's why, and watching people's
transitions, watching my own transition,
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it is such an honor, it's so humbling that
I even get a front row view of this.
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And like that whole thing of transitioning
from, I'm just gonna call it turd brown
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when I was a teacher, like that season to
the slob rags season to scared to show
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myself who I really am and worried about
what other people think to now taking
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ownership of what I look like on the
outside.
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Mm.
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confidence is because I've done all the
inner work.
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And people will say you need to have, you
know, spiritual work, you need to have
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energy work, all of this stuff.
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And I'm not saying you don't, but
confidence is from your cells.
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When each of the cells are firing and have
energy and vibrance, I mean, you can see
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my skin.
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My skin has been clear for a very long
time.
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And you can't Botox that.
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Like you can't make skin look good with
Botox.
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I've seen some really bad skin with Botox,
okay?
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But like that is moving that forward into
how I present myself now.
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But like that is moving that forward into
how I present myself now.
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I wanna present myself in a structured,
hey, I've learned that word from Sonya.
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I wanna present myself in a structured way
because that's who I am.
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I am structured.
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Everything I do and everything that comes
like my habits, the way I treat patients,
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everything has a structure to it.
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and I want to come across as structured
and confident because I am.
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And I also want to come across as open and
warm and inviting.
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And so that has like kind of shifted in
some of my wardrobe as well.
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And so that has like kind of shifted in
some of my wardrobe as well.
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Yeah.
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my goodness, Danielle, there is so much to
unpack there.
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You've had such a really emotional as well
as like long journey of so many pivotal
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kind of moments through your life and love
story.
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So if I take me back to, you know, you
touched on that, the brown suits and
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trying to find yourself through that time
and using that as a bit of a...
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trying to find yourself through that time
and using that as a bit of a...
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trying to find yourself through that time
and using that as a bit of a...
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point in time as to feeling like you
needed to be someone else, right?
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Because that was, you needed to hide
because the perception of others and
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falling into that.
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What do you think some triggers were for
you to identify that?
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Because sometimes, let me take a step
back.
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Sometimes we are doing this on autopilot,
as I would call it.
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We don't even realise we're doing it.
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What were some of the key triggers that
made you suddenly realise that actually I
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am people pleasing or I am trying to live
up to everybody else's expectations around
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am people pleasing or I am trying to live
up to everybody else's expectations around
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that time or any of the others?
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that's a really good question.
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Hindsight's always 20 -20, isn't it?
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So I would ask your listeners that are
listening right now, I would ask you to
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take it inventory.
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What is your motive behind what you're
doing and your decision making?
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Is your motive because you feel aligned
with that decision?
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Or is that motive, and I'm saying
decisions of food that's going in your
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mouth, what restaurants you go to, what
you're buying at the grocery store, what
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you're putting on your body, your buying
habits, your spending habits, everything.
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Who you hang out with, who are you
choosing to associate with?
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What is the motive behind it?
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And for me, my motive was I was afraid to
do something wrong.
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because I was taught that would disgrace
my family name.
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That was very much embedded, like even my
dad said it last year, last summer when I
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was over there helping take care of him,
it was very stern and very, I don't know,
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like he was trying to parent me again,
which, whatever.
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But that piece of I couldn't, I could not
destroy my family's name.
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But that piece of I couldn't, I could not
destroy my family's name.
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But that piece of I couldn't, I could not
destroy my family's name.
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What would they think of me?
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And so every decision I made was made out
of that lens, as I don't want to cause
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problems with them.
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So by wearing brown or muted tones of
different colors of khaki, different
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So by wearing brown or muted tones of
different colors of khaki, different
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colors of, I guess I would say earth
tones, right?
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colors of, I guess I would say earth
tones, right?
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Like earth tones allowed me to just blend
in.
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And that way I didn't rock the boat.
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And if I felt like I was going to rock the
boat, that's called codependency.
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And codependency, if I feel like I have to
walk on eggshells or I have to perform,
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and I also felt like I was always told I
was too much, I was always told I was too
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and I also felt like I was always told I
was too much, I was always told I was too
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loud, I was always told that I was mean or
all of these other things.
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And so again, all of these family stories
were going on, these family, I guess,
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upbringing things.
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were going through my brain as I was at
the stores.
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As I was walking through JCPenney, I was
walking through Kohl's or whatever, what
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other stores, I was looking through there
and I'm like, the bright colors are
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beautiful, but I would always say, that's
not me.
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Because I'm already too big, too loud, too
much.
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How would walking in in a hot pink suit
look to my mom?
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it would look obnoxious to her because I'm
already too much.
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And so that was part of that trigger that
are like what I would say in hindsight
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2020 is that I didn't want to be too much.
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Wow, Danielle, I've got goosebumps
listening to that.
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And it is a familiar theme that I hear
when we want to work with clients that
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when you do pull back, and I think as
like, I loved those questions that you put
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out an alternative to that and really to
go simple is coming from some of the
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theory that I learned.
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being Six Sigma qualified was, you know,
ask that five whys.
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Just keep asking why until you can get
down to, well, you've said this at the
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surface level, keep asking why in whatever
circumstance, but that's another kind of
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way to get there.
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I love that.
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I love that.
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And so then when you've started to work
through your programs and I didn't realize
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the connection all this time between
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I know you've got a membership with the
Wilderness of Wellness and all of that.
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I didn't realize the connection with
nature and that pivotal moment, you know,
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that that's how all of that came through.
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So I absolutely love that connection.
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But when you're working.
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with women through their wellness and
getting them to really understand some of
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those root causes and getting them to make
those changes.
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What do you find are some of the
challenges that people have in, like if
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they're in that environment, then to
actually start to make that change?
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Yes, the first start is maybe joining and
saying, yes, you know what, I want to make
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a change.
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But then we know like with exercise, with
eating, with changing your style, any of
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But then we know like with exercise, with
eating, with changing your style, any of
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those things.
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It's okay to say it, but to actually then
implement it and make it stick is probably
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It's okay to say it, but to actually then
implement it and make it stick is probably
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one of the hardest things to do.
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So how do you go about that?
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that is really good because I actually
have colleagues that are just like, I
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that is really good because I actually
have colleagues that are just like, I
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cannot believe you have created a space
that offers all of this.
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And I am saying this like truly shocked
that they would eat because these are
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respected people that I'm like, my gosh,
you guys are amazing.
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And they're telling me because they can't
get compliance with their patients and
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their clients.
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And so what I have created is that space
in between.
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And so where does where do we start?
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I always start with, if you even have a
thought that I need help, that's when you
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reach out.
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You need to be in a space where you can be
honest with yourself and honest with me.
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That is step one.
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And honesty can simply be, I feel like
dirt right now, or I feel like this, or
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And honesty can simply be, I feel like
dirt right now, or I feel like this, or
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I'm struggling and expressing your fears,
expressing that discomfort of change.
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But I think...
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one thing that people really struggle with
and that the missing link is this
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community.
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And it's the right kind of community
because we are the some of the five people
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And it's the right kind of community
because we are the some of the five people
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that we talk to the most.
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And if those five people are enabling us
to stay the same or pulling us back and
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wanting us to stay the same, and what does
that sound like?
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It sounds like you sending your girlfriend
a text and saying, my gosh, I've had such
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It sounds like you sending your girlfriend
a text and saying, my gosh, I've had such
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a hard day.
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I don't want to go to the gym today.
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And then that girlfriend saying, girl, you
deserve it.
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You have worked so hard and you've been so
good on your diet.
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It's okay.
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You don't have to go today.
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That is an enabling behavior that I no
longer accept as valid in my life and no
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longer do the women in my group either.
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And I think that that's the thing is that
we put a demand, not on purpose, but like
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we put a demand on the people that are
closest to us to keep us accountable.
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That's not their job.
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Their job is to be friends with us, to go
and have a good time and enjoy life with.
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Your spouse is not your accountability
partner.
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Your spouse's job is to do life with you.
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Do the things of the house, be best
friends, do all of that kind of stuff.
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Your spouse is not your accountability
partner either.
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Your spouse is not your accountability
partner either.
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And creating a space that, so community,
right?
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But the right kind of community.
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And I have built this space where it is a
safe space.
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What does that mean?
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A safe space means you feel open and safe
enough to be vulnerable because
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vulnerability leads to human connection.
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And then human connection is where change
happens and that sustainable change
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happens.
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So I can tell you, I can write you a
prescription, a protocol.
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I can tell you exactly what to do.
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You're not gonna do it, maybe for 30 days,
but you're not gonna do it.
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And if you're a type A personality, you're
gonna do it for six months.
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eight months maybe, okay, for extra
credit.
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You're not gonna do it because you have to
leave my office and go home.
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You have other people, you have a life to
deal with.
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You need people in your back pocket to
support you.
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So community, right there, first of all,
being honest with yourself and honest with
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someone else or with me.
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Community, a safe community.
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And then the third thing you need is
support in the mindset.
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You already know probably what habits
you're doing that are not healthy.
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I always start with the mindset that's
phase one in my success path because in
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everything I start with your identity
actually in the mindset.
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Because just like I was talking about
earlier, we live through our lived or we
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Because just like I was talking about
earlier, we live through our lived or we
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have a lens and go through life with our
lived experience.
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Me sitting at 300 pounds and saying, this
is going to be fine for my dad to have
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heart quintuple bypass and I'm next.
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I can choose to live that story.
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and choose to live in that identity.
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Whereas I choose to say I'm a healthy
person.
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So if I'm a healthy person, I'm gonna do
what healthy people do.
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I'm not gonna run through the drive
-through and go get food from fast food
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places.
00:25:03:16 - 00:25:05:06
A healthy person's not gonna do that.
00:25:05:06 - 00:25:08:14
A healthy person's gonna go to the grocery
store and going to go get a quality
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protein, a quality fat, and a quality
carb.
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And that's what we do.
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We don't when we go on road trips, we
don't stop at fast food unless we use the
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restroom.
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But we don't stop at fast food.
00:25:18:09 - 00:25:21:18
We literally stop at our grocery stores
because our grocery stores now here now
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have gas stations or petrol.
00:25:23:17 - 00:25:24:16
You just call it petrol.
00:25:24:16 - 00:25:25:07
Whatever.
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We have gas stations.
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But they now have they now have that.
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But they now have they now have that.
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So you can fuel up and go in the grocery
store and go to the bathroom and get your
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food.
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And you don't even have to be tempted by
other things, because again, when we allow
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ourselves to be
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in a space of temptation, we're setting
ourselves up for failure.
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And we're worth more?
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We're definitely worth more than a drive
-through.
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We're worth more than a meal that can be
made in two minutes.
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And so thinking about that, I think we're
really lucky here in Australia.
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And so thinking about that, I think we're
really lucky here in Australia.
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And I think Danielle, you've experienced
some of the cuisines and things like that,
00:26:03:18 - 00:26:08:20
that we've got access really everywhere
for really healthy options for us.
00:26:08:20 - 00:26:09:13
that we've got access really everywhere
for really healthy options for us.
00:26:09:13 - 00:26:15:20
But as sometimes as busy professionals or
really ambitious women out there, the
00:26:15:20 - 00:26:17:05
challenge becomes prepping, making it.
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challenge becomes prepping, making it.
00:26:19:19 - 00:26:24:13
being able to be ready in kind of those
circumstances and the same sort of
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applies, you know, when it comes to their
style, et cetera.
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applies, you know, when it comes to their
style, et cetera.
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But looking at the preparation piece and
really supporting implementation around
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But looking at the preparation piece and
really supporting implementation around
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that, what would be your top three tips
for someone?
00:26:35:04 - 00:26:37:10
that, what would be your top three tips
for someone?
00:26:37:19 - 00:26:41:20
Okay, so I would definitely hydrate first
of all, I would make sure you have plenty
00:26:41:20 - 00:26:44:02
of water, pure clean water.
00:26:44:02 - 00:26:47:02
I actually, this is going to go against
almost everybody what they say.
00:26:47:02 - 00:26:50:19
I would say distilled water, have
distilled water on and drink half your
00:26:50:19 - 00:26:55:10
body weight in ounces or I don't know what
that refers to in metrics.
00:26:55:10 - 00:26:58:17
So half your body weight in ounces of
water, go get if you're for meal prepping
00:26:58:17 - 00:26:59:16
So half your body weight in ounces of
water, go get if you're for meal prepping
00:26:59:16 - 00:27:01:20
all of that for the busy woman, don't make
it hard, go get a rotisserie chicken from
00:27:01:20 - 00:27:05:02
all of that for the busy woman, don't make
it hard, go get a rotisserie chicken from
00:27:05:02 - 00:27:06:08
the grocery store.
00:27:06:08 - 00:27:08:09
That is however many lunches you can have
there.
00:27:08:09 - 00:27:14:09
You can get a wrap, fill it with hummus or
tzatziki and some carrots, some cucumbers,
00:27:14:09 - 00:27:15:01
that kind of thing.
00:27:15:01 - 00:27:18:08
And just make a quick, that's a blood
sugar balanced meal for the stressed
00:27:18:08 - 00:27:19:03
woman.
00:27:19:03 - 00:27:19:05
Add some good quality cheese in there.
00:27:19:05 - 00:27:21:16
Add some good quality cheese in there.
00:27:21:16 - 00:27:23:00
Just don't make it so hard.
00:27:23:00 - 00:27:29:16
If you could go in and I think what we get
so wrapped up in this idea that, my gosh,
00:27:29:16 - 00:27:31:18
it has to be in these meal prep
containers.
00:27:31:18 - 00:27:34:18
It has to be washed and done this way.
00:27:34:18 - 00:27:39:08
I rock up with a rotisserie chicken to my
office and I just peel off pieces when I
00:27:39:08 - 00:27:39:23
need it.
00:27:39:23 - 00:27:45:02
I take vegetables and like I said, I'll
make salads on the fly, get bagged salad
00:27:45:02 - 00:27:48:04
and get some rotisserie chicken meat, get
some lunch meat.
00:27:48:04 - 00:27:51:21
Again, don't make it harder than it has to
be, but you want a good solid protein,
00:27:51:21 - 00:27:54:05
some good vegetables and fruit and some
good quality water.
00:27:54:05 - 00:27:55:18
some good vegetables and fruit and some
good quality water.
00:27:55:18 - 00:27:57:02
Bingo, that's it.
00:27:57:02 - 00:27:57:09
Bingo, that's it.
00:27:57:09 - 00:28:00:10
Nice and simple the way I like it.
00:28:00:10 - 00:28:05:10
Now, if I think about you've had this
amazing transition.
00:28:05:10 - 00:28:05:22
And for those that eventually jump onto
maybe Danielle's website or check out her
00:28:05:22 - 00:28:09:14
And for those that eventually jump onto
maybe Danielle's website or check out her
00:28:09:14 - 00:28:15:20
Instagram, you'll see, you know, her style
and her brand over the years has
00:28:15:20 - 00:28:19:05
significantly changed the woman she is
today.
00:28:19:05 - 00:28:24:12
So tell me a little bit around the compare
and contrast around
00:28:24:12 - 00:28:25:08
So tell me a little bit around the compare
and contrast around
00:28:25:08 - 00:28:30:05
who you are today and the way that your
brand is represented and your style
00:28:30:05 - 00:28:34:08
compared to maybe a bit earlier on in your
journey.
00:28:35:13 - 00:28:36:10
my goodness.
00:28:36:10 - 00:28:41:23
So I would say I still, like I said, the
structure, the suit thing still is my
00:28:41:23 - 00:28:44:07
favorite piece of wardrobe.
00:28:44:07 - 00:28:48:01
Like I will rock a suit any day, any time
and a pantsuit.
00:28:48:01 - 00:28:48:23
Like I will rock a suit any day, any time
and a pantsuit.
00:28:48:23 - 00:28:49:07
I don't, I am not.
00:28:49:07 - 00:28:50:22
This is another thing, if I may.
00:28:50:22 - 00:28:55:02
I struggle and I've always felt with, I
felt a struggle with feeling too
00:28:55:02 - 00:28:56:05
masculine.
00:28:56:07 - 00:28:57:22
because I am a bigger woman.
00:28:57:22 - 00:29:01:12
And even my kids make fun of me because
they were like one time I was coming out
00:29:01:12 - 00:29:06:09
of the grocery store and I was walking out
with two other men and my kids were like,
00:29:06:09 - 00:29:08:21
the only reason why we knew it was you is
because of the hair.
00:29:08:21 - 00:29:14:15
And I was like, guys, because I am as tall
as many men and that's fine.
00:29:14:17 - 00:29:19:03
But rocking a pantsuit lets me feel
structured.
00:29:19:03 - 00:29:20:08
It makes me feel safe.
00:29:20:08 - 00:29:22:05
It makes me feel safe in my body.
00:29:22:05 - 00:29:24:18
It makes me feel in...
00:29:24:21 - 00:29:26:20
Like I can step into the role that I am.
00:29:26:20 - 00:29:30:15
I'm a leader and I know I am whether I'm
in charge that day or not I'm gonna be the
00:29:30:15 - 00:29:34:09
one that people are gonna be asking
questions to and I'm Comfortable with that
00:29:34:09 - 00:29:40:03
now ish But that and changing the colors
like even though my brand my business
00:29:40:03 - 00:29:40:14
now ish But that and changing the colors
like even though my brand my business
00:29:40:14 - 00:29:46:02
brand colors are not necessarily what I
wear I'm comfortable in finding that I am
00:29:46:02 - 00:29:51:19
a summer like I look good in summer colors
like that brighter like lighter tones and
00:29:51:19 - 00:29:54:00
it makes me just feel like
00:29:54:05 - 00:29:56:06
I love how my skin looks.
00:29:56:06 - 00:29:57:23
I love how my eyes glisten.
00:29:57:23 - 00:30:03:07
I love how my body, my shoulders, I love
how I can accentuate those with a
00:30:03:07 - 00:30:04:09
sleeveless shirt.
00:30:05:00 - 00:30:08:16
That's typically, like that's kind of been
the change is finding that comfort.
00:30:08:16 - 00:30:13:17
But even just slightly before this, okay,
slightly before this, it was another
00:30:13:17 - 00:30:17:22
identity thing of where I would just go
out in workout gear.
00:30:17:22 - 00:30:20:11
all the time because I felt confident.
00:30:20:11 - 00:30:21:13
I love to I love not power lifting.
00:30:21:13 - 00:30:24:02
I love Olympic lifting and CrossFit.
00:30:24:02 - 00:30:28:07
And I found my identity in that, right?
00:30:28:07 - 00:30:31:23
I was confident because I'm lifting as
much as men do and all of that.
00:30:31:23 - 00:30:34:22
And I think it's funny, but and I enjoy
and it's confident.
00:30:34:22 - 00:30:37:01
So I dressed in this.
00:30:37:01 - 00:30:39:09
I guess what I could say is my my wardrobe
and the attire that I would wear literally
00:30:39:09 - 00:30:42:11
I guess what I could say is my my wardrobe
and the attire that I would wear literally
00:30:42:11 - 00:30:44:03
represented where I was confident or not.
00:30:44:03 - 00:30:44:17
represented where I was confident or not.
00:30:44:17 - 00:30:47:03
Hmm, that's yeah.
00:30:48:10 - 00:30:50:14
Yeah, no, absolutely that.
00:30:50:14 - 00:30:50:22
Yeah, no, absolutely that.
00:30:50:22 - 00:30:55:15
And I think you've really articulated that
in a way that sometimes I struggle to
00:30:55:15 - 00:30:59:04
articulate back to clients is that where
you feel most comfortable, that's where
00:30:59:04 - 00:31:02:06
articulate back to clients is that where
you feel most comfortable, that's where
00:31:02:06 - 00:31:03:22
you know, where your power is all of that.
00:31:03:22 - 00:31:06:21
That's why you're gravitating to those
particular outfits.
00:31:06:21 - 00:31:10:10
So there's much more to it than that.
00:31:10:10 - 00:31:10:15
And I hear a lot
00:31:10:15 - 00:31:11:21
And I hear a lot
00:31:11:21 - 00:31:15:20
around, I want to feel more comfortable in
my outfits, but I want to feel elevated or
00:31:15:20 - 00:31:16:21
put together.
00:31:16:21 - 00:31:17:09
And that can be a journey that that is a
journey, right, but from both internally
00:31:17:09 - 00:31:20:14
And that can be a journey that that is a
journey, right, but from both internally
00:31:20:14 - 00:31:25:10
in order to get to your external where you
feel comfortable.
00:31:25:10 - 00:31:26:21
You know, if I worked with a client and I
put them in, you know, that hot pink suit
00:31:26:21 - 00:31:29:13
You know, if I worked with a client and I
put them in, you know, that hot pink suit
00:31:29:13 - 00:31:33:14
or whatever it would be that might push
them out of their comfort zone.
00:31:33:14 - 00:31:36:21
Usually, I can't get them to their
ultimate where they want to be.
00:31:36:21 - 00:31:38:23
Usually, I can't get them to their
ultimate where they want to be.
00:31:38:23 - 00:31:42:10
instantly because I know it won't stick.
00:31:42:10 - 00:31:47:13
So it's that journey that you've got to go
through step by step to actually get you
00:31:47:13 - 00:31:48:21
to that ultimate sort of style vision that
you've got in your mind where the inside
00:31:48:21 - 00:31:51:23
to that ultimate sort of style vision that
you've got in your mind where the inside
00:31:51:23 - 00:31:53:07
matches the outside.
00:31:53:17 - 00:31:58:15
Yeah, and like even that piece of if I'm
going to throw on jeans, my jeans are
00:31:58:15 - 00:32:01:21
structured because I just feel good in it.
00:32:01:21 - 00:32:07:13
But also, I will throw on a jacket over
the top if I want to elevate my jeans,
00:32:07:13 - 00:32:13:06
because that makes me feel like I can walk
into a room and actually have a posture of
00:32:13:06 - 00:32:14:06
who I am.
00:32:14:06 - 00:32:15:07
Right.
00:32:15:10 - 00:32:15:19
Yeah.
00:32:15:19 - 00:32:17:04
No, beautiful.
00:32:17:04 - 00:32:17:19
Okay.
00:32:17:19 - 00:32:19:05
So Danielle, if someone wanted to find out
a little bit more about you and what you
00:32:19:05 - 00:32:24:05
So Danielle, if someone wanted to find out
a little bit more about you and what you
00:32:24:05 - 00:32:28:21
do, et cetera, how would they go about and
find you?
00:32:29:10 - 00:32:36:03
I would just have them go to my Instagram
at crying in my cheesecake and send me a
00:32:36:03 - 00:32:36:21
DM there.
00:32:36:21 - 00:32:37:18
That is a great place.
00:32:37:18 - 00:32:43:17
You can also, if you want to listen to me
talk even more, I get very talkative on my
00:32:43:17 - 00:32:46:04
podcast crying in my cheesecake as well.
00:32:46:04 - 00:32:49:09
So you can check me out in those two
locations if you would like.
00:32:49:09 - 00:32:52:17
And the website, I would have them go to
the website, but it's going to be going
00:32:52:17 - 00:32:54:10
under construction soon.
00:32:54:10 - 00:32:54:19
So.
00:32:54:19 - 00:32:55:02
So.
00:32:55:04 - 00:32:56:00
No problem.
00:32:56:00 - 00:32:58:11
And I will have those in the show notes.
00:32:58:11 - 00:32:59:21
So as we move into my traditional fast
three questions.
00:32:59:21 - 00:33:00:14
So as we move into my traditional fast
three questions.
00:33:00:14 - 00:33:04:03
So as we move into my traditional fast
three questions.
00:33:04:04 - 00:33:07:22
So Danielle, tell me and I think you might
have hinted to this a little bit.
00:33:07:22 - 00:33:09:05
Signature style piece.
00:33:09:05 - 00:33:13:20
What's that go to signature style piece
that you feel represents your current
00:33:13:20 - 00:33:17:02
brand and why is it essential part of your
wardrobe?
00:33:17:16 - 00:33:21:00
It will always be the blazer jacket.
00:33:21:00 - 00:33:21:01
That is my signature piece.
00:33:21:01 - 00:33:22:14
That is my signature piece.
00:33:22:14 - 00:33:27:08
And I would say probably a sleeveless
shirt underneath as well, just because I
00:33:27:08 - 00:33:30:19
can show off my shoulders and the work
that I've done in that.
00:33:30:19 - 00:33:35:16
But it will always be because it allows me
to feel almost that hug of this is who I
00:33:35:16 - 00:33:36:21
But it will always be because it allows me
to feel almost that hug of this is who I
00:33:36:21 - 00:33:37:06
am.
00:33:37:06 - 00:33:38:15
I love it.
00:33:38:15 - 00:33:38:20
I love it.
00:33:38:22 - 00:33:39:23
Beautiful.
00:33:39:23 - 00:33:40:03
Beautiful.
00:33:40:04 - 00:33:41:20
Transformational reads.
00:33:41:20 - 00:33:46:12
So the listeners that have been looking
for inspiration.
00:33:46:12 - 00:33:49:14
So it might be something you're listening
to as well.
00:33:49:14 - 00:33:50:17
What's really potentially helping you
through your day to day kind of journey
00:33:50:17 - 00:33:54:07
What's really potentially helping you
through your day to day kind of journey
00:33:54:07 - 00:33:56:11
that you can share?
00:33:56:15 - 00:33:59:19
so I personally, this is very nerdy of me.
00:33:59:19 - 00:34:03:00
I struggle with reading fiction.
00:34:03:02 - 00:34:09:10
I used to grow up reading fiction all the
time, but I have been stuck on just being
00:34:09:10 - 00:34:11:09
poured into too much.
00:34:11:09 - 00:34:18:05
Many times I think that we as type A folk
that again, want to learn and high
00:34:18:05 - 00:34:18:15
achieve.
00:34:18:15 - 00:34:22:10
We want to learn all the things and be
poured into all the time.
00:34:22:13 - 00:34:25:07
So instead of
00:34:25:09 - 00:34:29:02
putting more information in and not doing
anything about it and Living my life the
00:34:29:02 - 00:34:33:08
way and living my life by the way, I'm
professing like hey, let's actually do
00:34:33:08 - 00:34:34:07
things Right now what I am listening to is
It's something called shit talk sister
00:34:34:07 - 00:34:37:16
things Right now what I am listening to is
It's something called shit talk sister
00:34:37:16 - 00:34:40:10
things Right now what I am listening to is
It's something called shit talk sister
00:34:40:10 - 00:34:40:21
wives.
00:34:40:21 - 00:34:42:12
It is my gosh.
00:34:42:12 - 00:34:44:01
I cannot believe I'm admitting all of
this.
00:34:44:01 - 00:34:46:10
Okay, so it is a patreon I think it's the
sister wives podcast.
00:34:46:10 - 00:34:47:14
Okay, so it is a patreon I think it's the
sister wives podcast.
00:34:47:14 - 00:34:49:10
Okay, so it is a patreon I think it's the
sister wives podcast.
00:34:49:10 - 00:34:50:05
I don't know
00:34:50:05 - 00:34:52:08
Anyway, so let me back up.
00:34:52:08 - 00:34:59:05
Every Monday at 7 p I am usually in the
bathtub with Epsom salts to help take
00:34:59:05 - 00:35:02:10
care, like a part of my routine of helping
take care of my nervous system and my
00:35:02:10 - 00:35:04:08
blood sugar and all of that, okay?
00:35:04:08 - 00:35:06:07
And bringing down my stress.
00:35:06:07 - 00:35:11:18
In order to have it stack and make it a
priority to myself, I have to bribe myself
00:35:11:18 - 00:35:17:02
to get in there and to calm down and to
like sit in the tub and do nothing, right?
00:35:17:02 - 00:35:20:03
Because I would sit there and actually
work the whole time I was in the tub.
00:35:20:03 - 00:35:21:22
because that's just who I am.
00:35:22:00 - 00:35:27:15
So I brought myself by giving myself just
fun things to zone out on, whether it's
00:35:27:15 - 00:35:30:14
trashy TV or the podcast or whatever, it
is my incentive to take care of myself.
00:35:30:14 - 00:35:34:01
trashy TV or the podcast or whatever, it
is my incentive to take care of myself.
00:35:34:01 - 00:35:35:20
We're no better than dogs sometimes, guys.
00:35:35:20 - 00:35:38:13
We got to give ourselves little treats
here and there, right?
00:35:38:13 - 00:35:46:01
So I have been allowing myself to be just
goofy and allow myself to not learn
00:35:46:01 - 00:35:47:06
anything new.
00:35:47:06 - 00:35:52:05
but to lose myself in things that really
don't matter because it's fun.
00:35:52:05 - 00:35:57:18
And I think we forget that fun and that
flow of fun is actually part of health and
00:35:57:18 - 00:36:00:02
wellness and our personal brand as well.
00:36:00:02 - 00:36:00:06
wellness and our personal brand as well.
00:36:00:08 - 00:36:01:16
I love that.
00:36:01:16 - 00:36:02:04
Yes, I would say that I jump onto a nice
romcom.
00:36:02:04 - 00:36:05:12
Yes, I would say that I jump onto a nice
romcom.
00:36:05:12 - 00:36:06:16
Yes, I would say that I jump onto a nice
romcom.
00:36:06:16 - 00:36:09:17
I do enjoy to turn off as well.
00:36:09:17 - 00:36:13:23
And I think it is really important to
remind ourselves that especially if you
00:36:13:23 - 00:36:18:00
do, you know, love to learn and you've
always got the headphones on or you're
00:36:18:00 - 00:36:22:05
reading and you're learning and something
new that sometimes actually, you just need
00:36:22:05 - 00:36:25:13
that time to turn off and watch something
that's a no brainer or listen to
00:36:25:13 - 00:36:26:07
something.
00:36:26:07 - 00:36:29:21
That's not so thank you for reminding us
of that.
00:36:29:21 - 00:36:34:05
And so then finally, our mindset ritual.
00:36:34:05 - 00:36:37:17
We all have those days when we need an
extra boost.
00:36:37:17 - 00:36:45:04
Is there anything that you do to reset
your mind that helps you feel ready to
00:36:45:04 - 00:36:48:04
feel empowered and really tackle anything?
00:36:49:02 - 00:36:50:17
So that is a really good question.
00:36:50:17 - 00:36:54:20
And that is something that is very
important in my life.
00:36:54:20 - 00:36:56:19
And it's very important in all of the
women that I work with and the men too.
00:36:56:19 - 00:36:59:08
And it's very important in all of the
women that I work with and the men too.
00:36:59:08 - 00:37:00:21
I don't want to leave them out, but in
order to reset my mind, I do what I call,
00:37:00:21 - 00:37:05:05
I don't want to leave them out, but in
order to reset my mind, I do what I call,
00:37:05:05 - 00:37:09:13
I go to my sacred space and that is my gym
inside my home.
00:37:09:13 - 00:37:14:01
We have a three car garage and one of the
garage bays is my gym.
00:37:14:05 - 00:37:15:07
And
00:37:15:07 - 00:37:19:01
I allow myself to feel the feelings.
00:37:19:01 - 00:37:20:15
I open my hips.
00:37:20:19 - 00:37:26:00
Even if I'm not lifting heavy that day, I
am there to push my body because you know
00:37:26:00 - 00:37:26:09
what?
00:37:26:09 - 00:37:27:22
I get to live in it that day.
00:37:27:22 - 00:37:31:17
I have breath in my lungs and I'm reminded
that that matters, but even more so.
00:37:31:17 - 00:37:33:19
I have breath in my lungs and I'm reminded
that that matters, but even more so.
00:37:33:19 - 00:37:36:16
So let's just say that it's been a really
rough week.
00:37:36:23 - 00:37:41:08
I find myself out in the woods, hiking on
mountains, climbing and going through
00:37:41:08 - 00:37:42:16
I find myself out in the woods, hiking on
mountains, climbing and going through
00:37:42:16 - 00:37:48:05
scrambles because then once I'm there, I
realize that my problems are just this
00:37:48:05 - 00:37:48:20
much of the world.
00:37:48:20 - 00:37:53:03
They're just a teeny tiny blip on the dot
of the world.
00:37:53:03 - 00:37:57:06
And there are so many other like bugs and
other things that are still going on with
00:37:57:06 - 00:37:58:00
their lives.
00:37:58:00 - 00:38:02:17
There's so many trees and all of these
other things that are still happening no
00:38:02:17 - 00:38:04:12
matter how I feel inside.
00:38:04:12 - 00:38:09:07
My circumstances don't get to dictate how
I go through life and how I behave, how I
00:38:09:07 - 00:38:13:13
treat myself, but instead it's a
responsibility that I get to live in this
00:38:13:13 - 00:38:17:17
body and I need to go and take care of it
and get my perspective back.
00:38:17:17 - 00:38:23:09
So ultimately, it is taking care of my
body in whichever physical way it needs to
00:38:23:09 - 00:38:25:15
be, like usually grounding in the earth,
working, you know, working on myself that
00:38:25:15 - 00:38:26:14
be, like usually grounding in the earth,
working, you know, working on myself that
00:38:26:14 - 00:38:27:22
be, like usually grounding in the earth,
working, you know, working on myself that
00:38:27:22 - 00:38:28:09
way.
00:38:28:09 - 00:38:28:16
way.
00:38:29:03 - 00:38:30:10
Thank you, Danielle.
00:38:30:10 - 00:38:31:02
That's a great reminder for my listeners.
00:38:31:02 - 00:38:33:14
That's a great reminder for my listeners.
00:38:33:15 - 00:38:36:18
It's been an absolute pleasure having you
on the show.
00:38:36:18 - 00:38:39:03
If anyone wants to get in contact with
Danielle, go check out her Instagram as
00:38:39:03 - 00:38:41:22
If anyone wants to get in contact with
Danielle, go check out her Instagram as
00:38:41:22 - 00:38:42:15
well.
00:38:42:15 - 00:38:44:12
That'll be in the show notes.
00:38:44:12 - 00:38:46:13
So you'll be able to find it there.
00:38:46:13 - 00:38:48:02
So thank you so much, Danielle.
00:38:48:02 - 00:38:52:02
Really appreciate chatting on your Friday
night.
00:38:52:02 - 00:38:53:13
Yes, thanks, Sonja.
00:38:53:13 - 00:38:57:01
I'm like, our son here is your son from
yesterday.
00:38:57:06 - 00:38:58:05
definitely.
00:38:58:05 - 00:38:59:03
Thanks everyone.
00:38:59:03 - 00:39:00:05
Take care.
