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Welcome to another inspiring episode of the Style and Strategy podcast.
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Today, I'm absolutely thrilled to introduce a remarkable guest, Belinda Stark.
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Today, I'm absolutely thrilled to introduce a remarkable guest, Belinda Stark.
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And Belinda's journey just absolutely epitomizes resilience, transformation, and honestly,
authentic leadership.
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She has navigated the ends of the earth around complexities of life.
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She has navigated the ends of the earth around complexities of life.
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with absolute unwavering determination from leaving a toxic relationship to overcoming
severe postnatal depression, and then to face breast cancer diagnosis head on, and then
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with absolute unwavering determination from leaving a toxic relationship to overcoming
severe postnatal depression, and then to face breast cancer diagnosis head on, and then
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with absolute unwavering determination from leaving a toxic relationship to overcoming
severe postnatal depression, and then to face breast cancer diagnosis head on, and then
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building a successful fashion business and now a life coach.
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building a successful fashion business and now a life coach.
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Her story is one of incredible strength and perseverance.
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Her story is one of incredible strength and perseverance.
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Her story is one of incredible strength and perseverance.
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She's not only reinvented herself through personal adversity, but also has channeled her
experiences into empowering midlife women to embrace their unique journeys.
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As a coach and a mentor, Belinda helps women navigate challenges of midlife from career
shifts to menopause and rediscovering personal self -worth.
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So I hope you enjoy this episode as I dive into Belinda's really inspiring life journey.
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and explore how she's harnessed her inner leader to overcome obstacles and achieve her
dreams.
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Welcome, Belinda, to the Style and Strategy podcast.
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I'm so excited to have you on today and really get into your amazing journey and life
journey, really, not just career, et cetera.
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I'm so excited to have you on today and really get into your amazing journey and life
journey, really, not just career, et cetera.
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So maybe if we can firstly start off with, know, when I sat down and read your bio and I'd
obviously met you through mutual communities,
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So maybe if we can firstly start off with, know, when I sat down and read your bio and I'd
obviously met you through mutual communities,
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So maybe if we can firstly start off with, know, when I sat down and read your bio and I'd
obviously met you through mutual communities,
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I really looked at it and thought, my goodness, you have faced so many personal challenges
that you've been able to work your way through and so inspirational and resilient through
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I really looked at it and thought, my goodness, you have faced so many personal challenges
that you've been able to work your way through and so inspirational and resilient through
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that journey.
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And one of them was, you know, really overcoming sort of, being diagnosed with postnatal
depression initially.
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Can you share with me a little bit around what was life like for you then and
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you what then made you trigger to realize that, okay, something's not
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Well, first of all, thank you so much for having me.
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I'm very excited.
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And yeah, let's get to that the nitty gritty.
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So for me, post -natal depression, I did have it with my first son in my first marriage.
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So for me, post -natal depression, I did have it with my first son in my first marriage.
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However, with Max, who was born in 2006, it hit really hard and it hit really early.
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And we knew the signs, my psychiatrist knew the signs.
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We were surprised that it did rear its ugly head again.
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We were surprised that it did rear its ugly head again.
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We were surprised that it did rear its ugly head again.
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And the good thing is I knew to nip it in the bud and I was hospitalized and I was in and
out of hospital for a year.
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And it came to one point where they thought they may have to have given me ECT treatment.
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However, we tried lithium and that worked for me.
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It had to be, you know, supervised.
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It had to be, you know, supervised.
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So I got well and I got better and I learnt.
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from that phase, because I feel there's always a silver lining with every cloud that you
go through.
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And sometimes when it's a dark cloud, there's a bigger silver lining there.
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And sometimes when it's a dark cloud, there's a bigger silver lining there.
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So that's where I was Ash.
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So that's where I was Ash.
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Yeah.
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And so tell me like, after going through that, what motivated you then to say, okay, you
know what, it's potentially a time for change in my career journey in life direction.
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And so tell me like, after going through that, what motivated you then to say, okay, you
know what, it's potentially a time for change in my career journey in life direction.
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What were some of the triggers around that?
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And then what led to, you know, that next sort of phase for you?
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Yeah, well, as Max grew older and was at school, I'd been a stay at home mom and I just
wanted something and I was well, I was confident and well.
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Yeah, well, as Max grew older and was at school, I'd been a stay at home mom and I just
wanted something and I was well, I was confident and well.
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Yeah, well, as Max grew older and was at school, I'd been a stay at home mom and I just
wanted something and I was well, I was confident and well.
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Yeah, well, as Max grew older and was at school, I'd been a stay at home mom and I just
wanted something and I was well, I was confident and well.
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And a local fashion store, it actually, it started with recycled clothing, but they had
just started to bring in, this was 2012, new brands, you
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And a local fashion store, it actually, it started with recycled clothing, but they had
just started to bring in, this was 2012, new brands, you
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And a local fashion store, it actually, it started with recycled clothing, but they had
just started to bring in, this was 2012, new brands, you
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new stock and a job came up.
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new stock and a job came up.
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I shopped there a lot.
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So that's how they knew me because I have loved fashion my whole life.
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My very first job, high school job was at Just Jeans.
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My very first job, high school job was at Just Jeans.
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So it's obviously in my blood somewhere.
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And I started working there and I loved it so much.
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It gave me just some lightness and meeting people and styling them, dressing them.
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It gave me just some lightness and meeting people and styling them, dressing them.
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And yeah, very, very passionate about my fashion.
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So what happened was two years later, the owner of the store let us all know that she was
selling the business.
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So what happened was two years later, the owner of the store let us all know that she was
selling the business.
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And I thought, my goodness, I would love, love to buy this business.
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Like there was just this inner desire, this I've got to do this.
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Like there was just this inner desire, this I've got to do this.
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Even with like when there's something that I really want and when I was very sick,
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There's this inner fire.
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There's this beautiful inner woman inside me, my mentor saying, do it, do it.
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You've got to get better.
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You've got to get better.
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Anyway, I said to my husband, I love working here and I would love to buy this shop and
build it up and, you know, just set the bar higher.
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Anyway, I said to my husband, I love working here and I would love to buy this shop and
build it up and, you know, just set the bar higher.
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So he said, well, why don't we, why don't you do it?
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So he said, well, why don't we, why don't you do it?
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So he said, well, why don't we, why don't you do it?
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So he said, well, why don't we, why don't you do it?
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And I was lucky enough to own my home.
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it was from the settlement with my divorce.
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it was from the settlement with my divorce.
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So we were able to mortgage the home with some sort of business loan.
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I'm a bit, I need to pick up my finance brain.
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And I purchased the store and I was so happy.
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And I purchased the store and I was so happy.
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So yeah, do you want me to go on with what happened next?
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Yeah.
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Okay.
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So I don't know for any other small business owners there, but you know, the shop looked
beautiful.
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So I don't know for any other small business owners there, but you know, the shop looked
beautiful.
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So I don't know for any other small business owners there, but you know, the shop looked
beautiful.
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We had this beautiful opening and everything
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colorful and perfect and sparkly because I like a bit of sparkle and color.
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But at home, the garage was the warehouse, the office, the everything.
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And two weeks into having the store, was ferrying down.
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It was March.
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So it was new season.
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Love new season.
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For us fashionistas, it's like Christmas.
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It is.
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It is.
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And when all the stock arrives, it's so exciting.
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So yeah, new season stock, autumn stock and yeah, ferrying it down to the store.
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nicely steamed and priced and ready.
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And I got a phone call.
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I was parked right out the front of the shop.
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Never forget this.
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And I got a phone call and it was Breast Screen Australia.
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And they said, look, nothing to be concerned about, but we've found something a bit
sinister.
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You'll have to come back and we'll just have another look.
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You'll have to come back and we'll just have another look.
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And I was just like, the?
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And I was, I had, I had a hatch car.
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And I was, I had, I had a hatch car.
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So I had the hatch lifted up and she said this and
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I remember just sitting down on the hatch and crushing all the clothes that was going
through my brain too.
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I remember just sitting down on the hatch and crushing all the clothes that was going
through my brain too.
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And then I started crying and she said, why are you crying?
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said, well, I might have cancer.
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And she said, no, no, no, it's look, it's only one in 10.
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You'll be fine, et cetera, et cetera.
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So I thought, well, I will
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And long story short, I was that one in 10 and I was diagnosed two weeks into owning,
well, yeah, four weeks into owning the store, the official diagnosis.
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And long story short, I was that one in 10 and I was diagnosed two weeks into owning,
well, yeah, four weeks into owning the store, the official diagnosis.
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Wow.
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And obviously going through that diagnosis and then the corresponding treatment after that
time, how did you manage to stay resilient throughout that, given that you've just
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And obviously going through that diagnosis and then the corresponding treatment after that
time, how did you manage to stay resilient throughout that, given that you've just
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And obviously going through that diagnosis and then the corresponding treatment after that
time, how did you manage to stay resilient throughout that, given that you've just
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purchased this new business and had that to run?
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And having a few people in my life go through various forms of cancer as well, I know some
days are really tough.
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And having a few people in my life go through various forms of cancer as well, I know some
days are really tough.
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And, you know, some days you can feel okay.
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So how did you manage to sort of think forward and really focus on that beacon?
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You know, I again, it's that silver lining for me to have purchased something I was so
passionate about and love so much.
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You know, I again, it's that silver lining for me to have purchased something I was so
passionate about and love so much.
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It was the best distraction ever.
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And it kept me in the best psychological state.
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I was upbeat.
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I was positive and I was distracted.
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To be honest, the hardest thing and I'm sure you may have heard this before and people I
speak to.
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is the waiting.
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That is a very hard thing to get your mind around.
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It's, well, have I, haven't I?
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It's, well, have I, haven't I?
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You know, it's just, yeah, psychologically, it's really, really tough.
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You know, it's just, yeah, psychologically, it's really, really tough.
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But I feel that, again, as I said, the silver lining and also that inner mentor I have,
she comes out when I need to be brave.
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But I feel that, again, as I said, the silver lining and also that inner mentor I have,
she comes out when I need to be brave.
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And she was definitely there helping me.
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And I had support, like my husband was amazing.
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And I had support, like my husband was amazing.
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I had my best friend, her name's Belinda too.
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And she was my go -to and drove me everywhere.
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And actually, I'll never forget, I was driving, this was before I had the surgery.
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And actually, I'll never forget, I was driving, this was before I had the surgery.
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I was driving to have an, or she was driving to have an MRI and what have you.
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I was driving to have an, or she was driving to have an MRI and what have you.
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And I turned around to her and I said, if this is really bad and I don't have...
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And I turned around to her and I said, if this is really bad and I don't have...
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And I turned around to her and I said, if this is really bad and I don't have...
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a long, you know, much, much time left in my life.
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a long, you know, much, much time left in my life.
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I said to her, I don't regret a thing.
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I don't regret being divorced, getting sick with depression.
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I don't regret being divorced, getting sick with depression.
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I don't regret being divorced, getting sick with depression.
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And I, I just, yeah, it's what's made me today.
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And I, I just, yeah, it's what's made me today.
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And I, I just, yeah, it's what's made me today.
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And I'll never forget saying that to her.
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She started crying, but I meant it in a really, you know, I'm really grateful and I'm
really proud that I made all those decisions that I did in my past.
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She started crying, but I meant it in a really, you know, I'm really grateful and I'm
really proud that I made all those decisions that I did in my past.
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She started crying, but I meant it in a really, you know, I'm really grateful and I'm
really proud that I made all those decisions that I did in my past.
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Yeah, it's so true.
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Yeah, it's so true.
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Sometimes it's those moments that can make you really reflect and take stock
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Sometimes it's those moments that can make you really reflect and take stock
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really appreciate that I think, you know, sometimes when we're all going through the
throes of whether it's in business or whether trying to achieve things at work and you're
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really appreciate that I think, you know, sometimes when we're all going through the
throes of whether it's in business or whether trying to achieve things at work and you're
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really appreciate that I think, you know, sometimes when we're all going through the
throes of whether it's in business or whether trying to achieve things at work and you're
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in that hustle bustle, you forget to take that moment to really have, and I guess I'd call
it gratitude for everything around you, regardless whether you've got that moment that we
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in that hustle bustle, you forget to take that moment to really have, and I guess I'd call
it gratitude for everything around you, regardless whether you've got that moment that we
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in that hustle bustle, you forget to take that moment to really have, and I guess I'd call
it gratitude for everything around you, regardless whether you've got that moment that we
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in that hustle bustle, you forget to take that moment to really have, and I guess I'd call
it gratitude for everything around you, regardless whether you've got that moment that we
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in that hustle bustle, you forget to take that moment to really have, and I guess I'd call
it gratitude for everything around you, regardless whether you've got that moment that we
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in that hustle bustle, you forget to take that moment to really have, and I guess I'd call
it gratitude for everything around you, regardless whether you've got that moment that we
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in that hustle bustle, you forget to take that moment to really have, and I guess I'd call
it gratitude for everything around you, regardless whether you've got that moment that we
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all...
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wonder will that ever happen as well.
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I really do.
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I really do.
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really take what you've said there to impress all my listeners as well, that you never
know what's going to happen around the corner, the next minute, et cetera.
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really take what you've said there to impress all my listeners as well, that you never
know what's going to happen around the corner, the next minute, et cetera.
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really take what you've said there to impress all my listeners as well, that you never
know what's going to happen around the corner, the next minute, et cetera.
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So to take that stock, jump off that treadmill for a little bit and really appreciate the
world around you because it's so easy to get back into the standard grind again really
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So to take that stock, jump off that treadmill for a little bit and really appreciate the
world around you because it's so easy to get back into the standard grind again really
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easily.
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So once you'd kind of gone through that, you've got this amazing entrepreneurial spirit.
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So once you'd kind of gone through that, you've got this amazing entrepreneurial spirit.
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sort of around you.
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sort of around you.
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As part of that, really there's an element of leadership there, an internal drive and
leadership.
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As part of that, really there's an element of leadership there, an internal drive and
leadership.
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So how would you say that your leadership style really evolved like post that time period?
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So how would you say that your leadership style really evolved like post that time period?
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So how would you say that your leadership style really evolved like post that time period?
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So how would you say that your leadership style really evolved like post that time period?
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Good question.
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I would say.
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Because of what I'd been through, I just had to do, I had to do these things and I'm
always evolving.
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Because of what I'd been through, I just had to do, I had to do these things and I'm
always evolving.
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So after treatment, et cetera, I really wanted to design my own clothing, my own brand.
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So after treatment, et cetera, I really wanted to design my own clothing, my own brand.
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That was sort of the next step and to keep it exciting.
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So I did it.
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Yeah, I think that's a good one.
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You said internal drive.
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Yeah.
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She was there and I just do it.
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She was there and I just do it.
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And yeah, I suppose I don't even think of myself as a leader.
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And yeah, I suppose I don't even think of myself as a leader.
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And yeah, I suppose I don't even think of myself as a leader.
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If I really, really wanna do it, I'll do it.
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And I always ask myself, and I do this with my clients, what's the worst thing that could
happen?
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And you know, that's how you weigh it up.
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And usually it's okay.
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And usually it's okay.
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And it's facing that fear and going for it.
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Cause there's really the worst thing that can happen is X, Y, Z, but that's not really
that bad.
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So I suppose as a leader,
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That is how I would look at it.
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And look, the fashion label did well.
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was, I managed to find a beautiful lady in Bali and in Bali you can do small quantities
because China and what have you want, you know, lots.
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was, I managed to find a beautiful lady in Bali and in Bali you can do small quantities
because China and what have you want, you know, lots.
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was, I managed to find a beautiful lady in Bali and in Bali you can do small quantities
because China and what have you want, you know, lots.
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So, and you know what I loved?
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It was her and her village and they, cause my label was about sparkles and a few sequins
in color.
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It was her and her village and they, cause my label was about sparkles and a few sequins
in color.
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It was her and her village and they, cause my label was about sparkles and a few sequins
in color.
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They did the sequence into a star and what have you.
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They do them all by hand.
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They're absolute artisans and you're helping the village, you're helping your family.
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And yeah, it was a really beautiful extension of my store to be involved in that.
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And yeah, it was a really beautiful extension of my store to be involved in that.
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And yeah, it was a really beautiful extension of my store to be involved in that.
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it was really rewarding.
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And to say it was successful, you were warned on a number of high profile individuals
around that.
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And to say it was successful, you were warned on a number of high profile individuals
around that.
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And to say it was successful, you were warned on a number of high profile individuals
around that.
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And to say it was successful, you were warned on a number of high profile individuals
around that.
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And to say it was successful, you were warned on a number of high profile individuals
around that.
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So that's really for anyone who owns their own fashion brand and things like that.
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So that's really for anyone who owns their own fashion brand and things like that.
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It's a pinch me moment, right?
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Because suddenly sales go through the roof, there's that spike, it's all of that.
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Because suddenly sales go through the roof, there's that spike, it's all of that.
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And back then, that was great sort of coverage at that point.
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And back then, that was great sort of coverage at that point.
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And back then, that was great sort of coverage at that point.
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point from there, did you then suddenly go from the fashion brand and suddenly getting
this momentum to then now if I go there's this transition to life coaching.
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point from there, did you then suddenly go from the fashion brand and suddenly getting
this momentum to then now if I go there's this transition to life coaching.
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And so maybe if you can just touch on on that transition and how that happened for
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And so maybe if you can just touch on on that transition and how that happened for
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Happy to.
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Happy to.
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Look, the fashion brand, as I said, did well and even through COVID, Mia Friedman loved
it.
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She wore it a lot.
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Nikki Parkinson and what have you.
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But particularly in Victoria, we had terrible, terrible lockdowns and it wasn't
financially viable.
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But particularly in Victoria, we had terrible, terrible lockdowns and it wasn't
financially viable.
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So I stopped that and I was doing online and then we got out of COVID and I realized that
I had a drinking problem, not an alcoholic and you know, no judgment anywhere.
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So I stopped that and I was doing online and then we got out of COVID and I realized that
I had a drinking problem, not an alcoholic and you know, no judgment anywhere.
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So I stopped that and I was doing online and then we got out of COVID and I realized that
I had a drinking problem, not an alcoholic and you know, no judgment anywhere.
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I was a gray area drinker.
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I was an over drinker.
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And if I look back honestly on my life, in my life, probably since the early 2000s with my
divorce,
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And if I look back honestly on my life, in my life, probably since the early 2000s with my
divorce,
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I was heating the alcohol on and off a lot.
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So at the end of 2022, I faced it.
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So at the end of 2022, I faced it.
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So at the end of 2022, I faced it.
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I just, I had to do something.
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My older boy is sort of at that marriage stage.
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thought, well, he wouldn't, you know, if I become a grandma, I can't see him letting me
have, look after them because I drank like at five o 'clock every night.
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thought, well, he wouldn't, you know, if I become a grandma, I can't see him letting me
have, look after them because I drank like at five o 'clock every night.
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thought, well, he wouldn't, you know, if I become a grandma, I can't see him letting me
have, look after them because I drank like at five o 'clock every night.
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It was a drinking time.
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It was escape.
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It was escape.
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was reward.
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It was distress.
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It was everything to me.
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And I have no shame in it.
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It is such an easy, easy habit to fall into.
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And people blame themselves, but it truly sounded a bit preachy.
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And I'm certainly not preachy.
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You don't blame yourself.
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Like it's, actually the alcohol that's doing it.
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Not, not you.
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And I think that's a big thing.
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So.
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Long story short, decided no, that's it.
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And I threw myself with my team, Extreme All or Nothing, which can be good and bad.
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I threw myself into books, podcasts.
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They call it quit lit and it's some great, there's scientific books, there's personal
women's stories, there's everything.
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They call it quit lit and it's some great, there's scientific books, there's personal
women's stories, there's everything.
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They call it quit lit and it's some great, there's scientific books, there's personal
women's stories, there's everything.
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And God, it was good.
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It just, thought, my God, I'm not the only one.
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Yeah, yeah, and it is, it's so common, particularly in midlife women, so, so, so common.
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Yeah, yeah, and it is, it's so common, particularly in midlife women, so, so, so common.
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So I thought it's time and I just stopped drinking and I gave myself six months and then I
thought if I've got that under control, I'll, I'll, you know, I'll go back to drinking,
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So I thought it's time and I just stopped drinking and I gave myself six months and then I
thought if I've got that under control, I'll, I'll, you know, I'll go back to drinking,
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not as much, but yeah, after six months, the benefits for me of not drinking were
unbelievable.
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And the benefits, they just outweighed why would I go back to drinking?
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It's helped my life in every way.
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Sleep, hot flushes, relationships, more productive in work, so many benefits and I didn't
want to give them up.
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Sleep, hot flushes, relationships, more productive in work, so many benefits and I didn't
want to give them up.
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And I suppose I was a bit hesitant because I was concerned I would fall back into over
drinking.
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So as this new
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healthier Belinda evolved.
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And I looked into life coaching and I thought I would love because I love helping women in
the shop and styling them and they call it dopamine dressing.
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I don't know if you've heard of that and it's beautiful.
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It's just beautiful and giving them some confidence and just serving them so they feel
great.
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It's just beautiful and giving them some confidence and just serving them so they feel
great.
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So it's another it was just I really have always liked that.
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So it's another it was just I really have always liked that.
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And I thought
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Life coaching, yeah, I could help midlife women with all the things I've been through.
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Life coaching, yeah, I could help midlife women with all the things I've been through.
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And I've had that a very nasty in a critic in my mind, brain for a long time and learnt
how to tame her and going through the cancer and the drinking and a divorce.
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And I've had that a very nasty in a critic in my mind, brain for a long time and learnt
how to tame her and going through the cancer and the drinking and a divorce.
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I thought I could really, really help some women.
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And I want to I want to in midlife, let women know to embrace it, that you're not getting
too old.
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And I want to I want to in midlife, let women know to embrace it, that you're not getting
too old.
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It's such a special time.
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know there's this, this not very nice.
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know there's this, this not very nice.
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There's the menopause, the change, the parry, but look, there's things out there now that,
that can help you.
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There's the menopause, the change, the parry, but look, there's things out there now that,
that can help you.
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And it's just important.
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So important that we embrace this stage because it is a really beautiful stage.
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So I did a nine month course with it was called, it's called beautiful you life coaching
Academy.
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So I did a nine month course with it was called, it's called beautiful you life coaching
Academy.
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and it was beautiful and it was very holistic, very deep.
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And that's how I became a coach and I qualified in March.
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Okay.
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And so for those that have heard the term life coach and are going, okay, really is this
woo woo or, know, what is this?
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And so for those that have heard the term life coach and are going, okay, really is this
woo woo or, know, what is this?
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And so for those that have heard the term life coach and are going, okay, really is this
woo woo or, know, what is this?
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How would you describe, like, I know you've touched on helping women in certain different
areas, but how would you describe what you do with
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How would you describe, like, I know you've touched on helping women in certain different
areas, but how would you describe what you do with
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Yeah, sure.
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So often mine will come to me because they want help with their drinking as well.
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But as I said, it's a bandaid for something else.
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But as I said, it's a bandaid for something else.
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A life coach, it's when you're, if you've been through therapy and what have you, it's not
that.
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A life coach, it's when you're, if you've been through therapy and what have you, it's not
that.
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It's when you're really, really ready to make a change.
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You may not know what it is, but there's that inner burning that it's time.
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And you want the support.
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You want some clarity with your goals.
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You want accountability.
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So for me, it's, being your biggest cheerleader.
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So for me, it's, being your biggest cheerleader.
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It's, it's coaching you like in, what you want in the parts of your life that you want to
grow and what happens, which is so beautiful.
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It's, it's coaching you like in, what you want in the parts of your life that you want to
grow and what happens, which is so beautiful.
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It's, it's coaching you like in, what you want in the parts of your life that you want to
grow and what happens, which is so beautiful.
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You, you start coaching and, and, and helping and guiding.
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You, you start coaching and, and, and helping and guiding.
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You, you start coaching and, and, and helping and guiding.
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And then the, like the client gets on a, on a momentum and you watch them blossom.
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And then the, like the client gets on a, on a momentum and you watch them blossom.
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And it's the
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beautiful experience to watch them become them again and grow and flourish.
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So yeah, not sure if I answered that question, but yeah, it's a, I, for my coaching, it's
when you're ready to grow and want more from life.
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So yeah, not sure if I answered that question, but yeah, it's a, I, for my coaching, it's
when you're ready to grow and want more from life.
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Yeah, love that.
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No, that's a beautiful way of describing it, Belinda.
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No, that's a beautiful way of describing it, Belinda.
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So if I now flip over a little bit, you know, if you look, we've talked about sort of
these key elements as you look back over your life.
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So if I now flip over a little bit, you know, if you look, we've talked about sort of
these key elements as you look back over your life.
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So if I now flip over a little bit, you know, if you look, we've talked about sort of
these key elements as you look back over your life.
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Can you tell me a little bit how you think maybe your personal brand and style has evolved
through those life journeys?
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Because I always find that interesting.
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A lot of women that I talk to,
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think that when they define what their personal style is, that that's what it is for life.
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think that when they define what their personal style is, that that's what it is for life.
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And what I always impress on them is as you go through, as you evolve, your style will
change.
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And it's always important to take stock and revisit that.
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And it's always important to take stock and revisit that.
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So tell me a little bit around how you think your style adapted through some of those
different, how your style adapted through some of those life journeys.
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So tell me a little bit around how you think your style adapted through some of those
different, how your style adapted through some of those life journeys.
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Hmm, I think in my younger years, I was sort of like the trophy bride and I sort of, was
much more, I don't know, conventional and you know, country road suits and things like
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that.
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I think, well, I evolved when we divorced and I found me and I suppose my brand, I was
more casual, I was more playful.
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I think, well, I evolved when we divorced and I found me and I suppose my brand, I was
more casual, I was more playful.
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I think, well, I evolved when we divorced and I found me and I suppose my brand, I was
more casual, I was more playful.
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I think, well, I evolved when we divorced and I found me and I suppose my brand, I was
more casual, I was more playful.
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I think, well, I evolved when we divorced and I found me and I suppose my brand, I was
more casual, I was more playful.
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And then going into the store and having the store, it's changed in that I can't wear
black now.
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And then going into the store and having the store, it's changed in that I can't wear
black now.
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And whereas in my 20s, I just wore black all the time, blacks and grays, I actually
physically and mentally, if I wear something black now, I just feel yuck.
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So I think my personal style going into owning the store has evolved with
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So I think my personal style going into owning the store has evolved with
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Lots and lots of color, lots of joy and more casual, more comfortable, more comfort,
comfort both in your own skin and comfort in your clothing and not sticking like going
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Lots and lots of color, lots of joy and more casual, more comfortable, more comfort,
comfort both in your own skin and comfort in your clothing and not sticking like going
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with the trends as you get older.
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I think all you can get help from stylists.
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You go with what you want and what you feel good in, not the latest trend of the I don't
know.
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you know, crop tops and things like that.
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Yeah, I definitely wouldn't be in one of those.
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But even back then, I don't think I would have worn one.
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But even back then, I don't think I would have worn one.
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It's just different, isn't it?
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So yeah, that is what I would say how it's changed the most and I love it.
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So yeah, that is what I would say how it's changed the most and I love it.
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And yeah, just wear what you feel good in.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
00:22:46:16 - 00:22:47:06
And so just there was a moment when you touched on when you're in your early 20s and after
the divorce specifically, what I just wanted to ask is you said, I started dressing for
00:22:47:06 - 00:22:47:23
And so just there was a moment when you touched on when you're in your early 20s and after
the divorce specifically, what I just wanted to ask is you said, I started dressing for
00:22:47:23 - 00:22:55:10
And so just there was a moment when you touched on when you're in your early 20s and after
the divorce specifically, what I just wanted to ask is you said, I started dressing for
00:22:55:10 - 00:22:56:23
And so just there was a moment when you touched on when you're in your early 20s and after
the divorce specifically, what I just wanted to ask is you said, I started dressing for
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And so just there was a moment when you touched on when you're in your early 20s and after
the divorce specifically, what I just wanted to ask is you said, I started dressing for
00:23:00:03 - 00:23:00:09
me.
00:23:00:09 - 00:23:02:01
So I think that's a really important point because again, you know, I meet women who
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So I think that's a really important point because again, you know, I meet women who
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So I think that's a really important point because again, you know, I meet women who
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I don't know how my husband might perceive this or I need to dress a certain way because
it is the work environment or whatever that might be.
00:23:11:06 - 00:23:11:15
I don't know how my husband might perceive this or I need to dress a certain way because
it is the work environment or whatever that might be.
00:23:11:15 - 00:23:15:08
I don't know how my husband might perceive this or I need to dress a certain way because
it is the work environment or whatever that might be.
00:23:15:08 - 00:23:16:19
I don't know how my husband might perceive this or I need to dress a certain way because
it is the work environment or whatever that might be.
00:23:16:19 - 00:23:22:11
And so I'm interested to understand during that period that you had before, know, what do
you believe that you were perhaps dressing for the role that you played as you said, you
00:23:22:11 - 00:23:28:13
And so I'm interested to understand during that period that you had before, know, what do
you believe that you were perhaps dressing for the role that you played as you said, you
00:23:28:13 - 00:23:28:18
And so I'm interested to understand during that period that you had before, know, what do
you believe that you were perhaps dressing for the role that you played as you said, you
00:23:28:18 - 00:23:30:17
called it really the trophy bride.
00:23:30:17 - 00:23:31:23
What are your thoughts on that?
00:23:31:23 - 00:23:33:03
I would agree with that.
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Yeah.
00:23:33:11 - 00:23:33:16
My ex -husband too was a professional sportsman.
00:23:33:16 - 00:23:35:07
My ex -husband too was a professional sportsman.
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My ex -husband too was a professional sportsman.
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So we did a lot of travel and you know, we had to sort of look good for all the sponsors
and things like that.
00:23:42:02 - 00:23:43:05
So I sort of, we had to sort of do that anyway.
00:23:43:05 - 00:23:44:15
So I sort of, we had to sort of do that anyway.
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So I sort of, we had to sort of do that anyway.
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But yeah, just definitely fitting into the mold.
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But yeah, just definitely fitting into the mold.
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But yeah, just definitely fitting into the mold.
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And I don't like that mold.
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want.
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I want Belinda's mold.
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So, yeah.
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So, yeah.
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Love it.
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And do you think that it made you feel as though you were trying to be someone else?
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when I look back possibly, but you don't know at the time.
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And I look, I loved my country road suits and I loved everything.
00:24:15:14 - 00:24:15:23
And I look, I loved my country road suits and I loved everything.
00:24:15:23 - 00:24:19:07
I loved clothes, but it was just so, it was more what he liked to see me in without it
sounding too controlling.
00:24:19:07 - 00:24:22:15
I loved clothes, but it was just so, it was more what he liked to see me in without it
sounding too controlling.
00:24:22:15 - 00:24:24:11
I loved clothes, but it was just so, it was more what he liked to see me in without it
sounding too controlling.
00:24:24:15 - 00:24:28:15
Yeah, it was more fitting into the good little wife to fitting into that box of
00:24:28:15 - 00:24:29:15
Yeah, it was more fitting into the good little wife to fitting into that box of
00:24:29:21 - 00:24:31:05
how he wanted to see me.
00:24:31:05 - 00:24:32:02
yeah, that's, and look, probably back then, you know, country road was the, I keep
plugging them.
00:24:32:02 - 00:24:36:21
yeah, that's, and look, probably back then, you know, country road was the, I keep
plugging them.
00:24:36:21 - 00:24:37:05
That was, that was the, what everyone sort of wore, like, and it was special.
00:24:37:05 - 00:24:41:13
That was, that was the, what everyone sort of wore, like, and it was special.
00:24:41:13 - 00:24:46:00
had like prestige perhaps, you know, as a label.
00:24:46:02 - 00:24:51:10
So yeah, I would say much, much more comfortable since finding Belinda.
00:24:51:10 - 00:24:53:11
So yeah, I would say much, much more comfortable since finding Belinda.
00:24:53:15 - 00:24:54:10
Love it.
00:24:54:10 - 00:25:02:05
And so, you now you talk a lot more around changing the narrative around midlife and what
are some of the common challenges that you're seeing sort of the midlife women really
00:25:02:05 - 00:25:06:05
And so, you now you talk a lot more around changing the narrative around midlife and what
are some of the common challenges that you're seeing sort of the midlife women really
00:25:06:05 - 00:25:07:23
And so, you now you talk a lot more around changing the narrative around midlife and what
are some of the common challenges that you're seeing sort of the midlife women really
00:25:07:23 - 00:25:08:18
facing?
00:25:08:18 - 00:25:09:16
And I know when I've spoken to other sort of experts around this field, what was really
surprising to me was the definition of midlife and the age bracket that actually kind of
00:25:09:16 - 00:25:17:02
And I know when I've spoken to other sort of experts around this field, what was really
surprising to me was the definition of midlife and the age bracket that actually kind of
00:25:17:02 - 00:25:20:09
And I know when I've spoken to other sort of experts around this field, what was really
surprising to me was the definition of midlife and the age bracket that actually kind of
00:25:20:09 - 00:25:21:03
sits
00:25:21:03 - 00:25:22:00
in.
00:25:22:00 - 00:25:28:00
So tell me a little bit more about what you believe around that and what you're seeing in
that space.
00:25:28:02 - 00:25:28:05
yeah, no, good question.
00:25:28:05 - 00:25:29:18
yeah, no, good question.
00:25:29:18 - 00:25:34:19
I put up on my Instagram stories and I think I put it on the grid too, what is midlife?
00:25:34:19 - 00:25:35:12
I put up on my Instagram stories and I think I put it on the grid too, what is midlife?
00:25:35:12 - 00:25:40:05
And I had like a few different choices for women to answer.
00:25:40:05 - 00:25:44:09
And it was really interesting people in there at the start of their 40s.
00:25:44:09 - 00:25:46:05
And it was really interesting people in there at the start of their 40s.
00:25:46:05 - 00:25:48:17
I'm not in midlife, I'm not in midlife.
00:25:48:17 - 00:25:55:10
Whereas when you look up the definition, it's something like from 35 to 65, but that's
not.
00:25:55:10 - 00:26:00:09
Look, it's, it's just, yeah, I don't know.
00:26:00:09 - 00:26:01:11
Midlife is, is yeah.
00:26:01:11 - 00:26:01:23
Midlife is, is yeah.
00:26:01:23 - 00:26:08:22
I would say mid forties to mid sixties.
00:26:08:22 - 00:26:12:01
Yeah.
00:26:12:01 - 00:26:12:13
Yeah.
00:26:12:13 - 00:26:14:14
I am, but yeah, really good question.
00:26:14:14 - 00:26:17:03
And it really brings up different opinions and, and feelings.
00:26:17:03 - 00:26:18:17
And it really brings up different opinions and, and feelings.
00:26:18:17 - 00:26:19:18
And it really brings up different opinions and, and feelings.
00:26:19:18 - 00:26:21:12
So yeah, that was, that was,
00:26:21:12 - 00:26:23:20
That was a really interesting post.
00:26:23:20 - 00:26:24:00
That was a really interesting post.
00:26:25:20 - 00:26:31:05
And so as you sort of continue your vision around the life coaching and midlife, what do
you see as maybe the top maybe three tips or anything that you would give to someone who
00:26:31:05 - 00:26:33:14
And so as you sort of continue your vision around the life coaching and midlife, what do
you see as maybe the top maybe three tips or anything that you would give to someone who
00:26:33:14 - 00:26:39:16
And so as you sort of continue your vision around the life coaching and midlife, what do
you see as maybe the top maybe three tips or anything that you would give to someone who
00:26:39:16 - 00:26:42:17
is either smack bang in the thick of it, or maybe entering it and starting to feel like,
hang on, I can't possibly be here, right?
00:26:42:17 - 00:26:48:19
is either smack bang in the thick of it, or maybe entering it and starting to feel like,
hang on, I can't possibly be here, right?
00:26:48:19 - 00:26:50:08
Yeah, yeah.
00:26:50:12 - 00:26:57:10
And I think too in the answer to the previous question is the three main things that I
will say, there are, as I said earlier, there are a lot of women that are drinking, over
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And I think too in the answer to the previous question is the three main things that I
will say, there are, as I said earlier, there are a lot of women that are drinking, over
00:27:00:11 - 00:27:01:04
drinking and that's hiding something else.
00:27:01:04 - 00:27:03:07
drinking and that's hiding something else.
00:27:03:07 - 00:27:07:13
Boundaries, get lots, there's some common themes.
00:27:07:13 - 00:27:14:21
Boundaries and not having strong boundaries and then resenting that they've said yes and
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pleasing.
00:27:15:17 - 00:27:17:08
That's a big thing.
00:27:17:14 - 00:27:18:22
and finding them.
00:27:18:22 - 00:27:20:01
and finding them.
00:27:20:01 - 00:27:21:01
Just finding them.
00:27:21:01 - 00:27:24:06
I've got a couple of ladies in their goals are I want to find me again.
00:27:24:06 - 00:27:25:15
I'm at that stage now.
00:27:25:15 - 00:27:27:09
The kids are older.
00:27:27:12 - 00:27:29:04
I've got a bit more time.
00:27:29:04 - 00:27:31:03
Who have I been?
00:27:31:03 - 00:27:35:05
Like who am I now to who I've been?
00:27:35:06 - 00:27:36:00
So they're the three biggies there.
00:27:36:00 - 00:27:37:00
So they're the three biggies there.
00:27:37:00 - 00:27:38:03
So they're the three biggies there.
00:27:38:03 - 00:27:39:09
And sorry what did you just ask me?
00:27:39:09 - 00:27:40:08
And sorry what did you just ask me?
00:27:40:08 - 00:27:40:20
Fog.
00:27:40:20 - 00:27:41:15
Brain fog.
00:27:41:15 - 00:27:44:10
advice or tips would you give someone in that stage?
00:27:52:13 - 00:27:54:13
Don't be hard on yourself.
00:27:54:15 - 00:28:00:11
I know that's much easier to say than do, but just try.
00:28:00:11 - 00:28:04:11
Throw yourself into podcasts, into books, have your goals.
00:28:04:11 - 00:28:05:07
Throw yourself into podcasts, into books, have your goals.
00:28:05:07 - 00:28:08:07
I think it's really, really important to have a plan.
00:28:08:07 - 00:28:14:13
Even if it doesn't, you know, cause things change, life changes, life gets in the way, but
have a plan, have goals.
00:28:14:13 - 00:28:17:20
I have goals every month and it's
00:28:18:05 - 00:28:23:05
It's just good to have something to work towards to get up and know that that's where I'm
heading because that's where we can get stuck.
00:28:23:05 - 00:28:24:04
It's just good to have something to work towards to get up and know that that's where I'm
heading because that's where we can get stuck.
00:28:24:04 - 00:28:27:06
It's just good to have something to work towards to get up and know that that's where I'm
heading because that's where we can get stuck.
00:28:27:06 - 00:28:31:21
You're in midlife and you just feel stuck and you don't have to be.
00:28:31:21 - 00:28:33:13
There are so many things out there.
00:28:33:13 - 00:28:36:07
And as I said, no shame.
00:28:36:08 - 00:28:38:04
Don't be hard on yourself.
00:28:38:04 - 00:28:40:01
Seek a life coach.
00:28:40:04 - 00:28:43:09
There are some good ones out there and they really help.
00:28:43:09 - 00:28:44:01
There are some good ones out there and they really help.
00:28:44:01 - 00:28:50:08
I've had a coach and I will continue to have a coach because I get so much out of it and
such personal growth and, and a beautiful journey.
00:28:50:08 - 00:28:52:02
I've had a coach and I will continue to have a coach because I get so much out of it and
such personal growth and, and a beautiful journey.
00:28:52:02 - 00:28:53:14
So I would say those, those three things would be really good things to think about and
do.
00:28:53:14 - 00:28:58:17
So I would say those, those three things would be really good things to think about and
do.
00:28:58:17 - 00:29:01:04
Vision board is another one.
00:29:01:05 - 00:29:01:07
Having little post -it notes with affirmations.
00:29:01:07 - 00:29:05:13
Having little post -it notes with affirmations.
00:29:05:13 - 00:29:08:13
I know that's might sound a bit twee or whatever, but, it works.
00:29:08:13 - 00:29:09:15
I know that's might sound a bit twee or whatever, but, it works.
00:29:09:15 - 00:29:11:10
It just works.
00:29:11:12 - 00:29:12:03
So that would be, yeah, that would be my advice.
00:29:12:03 - 00:29:13:13
So that would be, yeah, that would be my advice.
00:29:13:13 - 00:29:13:19
So that would be, yeah, that would be my advice.
00:29:13:19 - 00:29:14:12
Wonderful.
00:29:14:12 - 00:29:15:13
So I'm going to ask you some quick fire questions now.
00:29:15:13 - 00:29:18:21
So I'm going to ask you some quick fire questions now.
00:29:18:21 - 00:29:20:22
So drumroll.
00:29:21:11 - 00:29:25:23
I think you're going die.
00:29:25:23 - 00:29:26:22
So tell me, what is your go -to signature style piece now that truly represents Belinda
and is essential part of your wardrobe?
00:29:26:22 - 00:29:34:08
So tell me, what is your go -to signature style piece now that truly represents Belinda
and is essential part of your wardrobe?
00:29:34:08 - 00:29:36:15
So tell me, what is your go -to signature style piece now that truly represents Belinda
and is essential part of your wardrobe?
00:29:36:15 - 00:29:36:20
So tell me, what is your go -to signature style piece now that truly represents Belinda
and is essential part of your wardrobe?
00:29:37:16 - 00:29:46:14
this is hard because, you know, I've got my Belinda clothes from the shop and I've got my
Belinda clothes and my coaching clothes.
00:29:46:14 - 00:29:51:07
So I would say, what's my go -to with all of them?
00:29:52:02 - 00:29:54:23
I'm going to be really different here and say my sneakers.
00:29:54:23 - 00:29:56:11
I wear sneakers for I just love the sneaker, but I have to say this.
00:29:56:11 - 00:30:00:03
I wear sneakers for I just love the sneaker, but I have to say this.
00:30:01:04 - 00:30:11:07
Last week I had to buy arch supports because I'm getting old lady feet and I think it's
because well you're you know your feet think about the your feet you don't really look
00:30:11:07 - 00:30:12:07
Last week I had to buy arch supports because I'm getting old lady feet and I think it's
because well you're you know your feet think about the your feet you don't really look
00:30:12:07 - 00:30:17:14
after them and it's because I've also been on my feet a lot with retail.
00:30:17:19 - 00:30:18:08
But yeah the good old sneaker I I'm a bit of a sneaker slush and I've got quite a few I
have to say but that that that's my go -to.
00:30:18:08 - 00:30:25:09
But yeah the good old sneaker I I'm a bit of a sneaker slush and I've got quite a few I
have to say but that that that's my go -to.
00:30:25:09 - 00:30:25:13
But yeah the good old sneaker I I'm a bit of a sneaker slush and I've got quite a few I
have to say but that that that's my go -to.
00:30:25:13 - 00:30:26:21
But yeah the good old sneaker I I'm a bit of a sneaker slush and I've got quite a few I
have to say but that that that's my go -to.
00:30:26:21 - 00:30:28:04
Absolutely.
00:30:28:06 - 00:30:37:10
I am also a major sneaker fan as well and have multiple colors and styles to keep it
interesting.
00:30:37:23 - 00:30:39:23
So then, yeah.
00:30:39:23 - 00:30:44:12
And so then tell me for those listeners looking for a little bit of inspo, you've touched
on, know, definitely getting into some podcasts and reading and so forth.
00:30:44:12 - 00:30:48:15
And so then tell me for those listeners looking for a little bit of inspo, you've touched
on, know, definitely getting into some podcasts and reading and so forth.
00:30:48:15 - 00:30:55:21
But is there something that maybe you've read or listened to that's really had a
significant impact on your journey?
00:30:56:03 - 00:30:58:22
I'm just a personal growth sponge.
00:30:58:22 - 00:31:02:20
So that's really hard to narrow it down to one.
00:31:02:20 - 00:31:04:08
Do you know what I'm going to say?
00:31:04:08 - 00:31:06:07
I'm going to go for this book.
00:31:06:13 - 00:31:08:21
I'm so excited about this book.
00:31:08:21 - 00:31:09:10
It's 365 Days of Morning Magic by Emma Wilkinshaw.
00:31:09:10 - 00:31:11:14
It's 365 Days of Morning Magic by Emma Wilkinshaw.
00:31:11:14 - 00:31:13:09
It's 365 Days of Morning Magic by Emma Wilkinshaw.
00:31:13:09 - 00:31:14:17
Yeah.
00:31:15:01 - 00:31:16:09
Yeah, there you go.
00:31:16:09 - 00:31:23:10
So I've just started this book and it is just beautiful and I think worth every penny
ladies.
00:31:23:10 - 00:31:25:03
So I would go with that
00:31:25:03 - 00:31:31:10
A daily guide to set your intentions and do it, consistency and actually open the book and
do it.
00:31:31:12 - 00:31:32:10
Yeah.
00:31:33:12 - 00:31:34:05
Yes.
00:31:34:05 - 00:31:38:14
Okay, and then finally, we all have those days and you've had your fair share where we
need an extra boost.
00:31:38:14 - 00:31:42:14
Okay, and then finally, we all have those days and you've had your fair share where we
need an extra boost.
00:31:42:14 - 00:31:54:10
So what would be your recommendation when someone's having one of those and they need a
quick mindset sort of switch over to help them feel like they can retackle everything?
00:31:54:10 - 00:31:59:11
Yeah, I listen to your body, really listen to your body.
00:31:59:17 - 00:32:02:19
My go -to was alcohol, so don't do that.
00:32:03:18 - 00:32:05:03
And what do I do?
00:32:05:03 - 00:32:08:18
Do you know what I've really got into lately is breath work.
00:32:09:07 - 00:32:09:20
I, not tech -o stuff, just like breathing in for four, holding it and breathing out for
eight.
00:32:09:20 - 00:32:15:11
I, not tech -o stuff, just like breathing in for four, holding it and breathing out for
eight.
00:32:16:23 - 00:32:19:16
And I've been doing that in the morning.
00:32:19:19 - 00:32:21:17
Well, anytime, to be honest with you.
00:32:21:17 - 00:32:32:17
And it's just if you breathe in and even if you put a little smile on your face and then
breathe out, my God, it just grounds you, settles you.
00:32:32:17 - 00:32:36:15
Particularly if you go and do it outside bare feet in the grass.
00:32:36:17 - 00:32:38:07
It's so simple.
00:32:38:07 - 00:32:41:10
They're simple things, ladies, but they work.
00:32:41:10 - 00:32:42:10
So my go -to now would be breath.
00:32:42:10 - 00:32:44:20
So my go -to now would be breath.
00:32:44:20 - 00:32:46:01
And I think
00:32:46:01 - 00:32:53:22
my body tells me if I haven't done it for a few days, just that sit down space breathe
that you need to do something Belinda, you're getting a bit overwhelmed, you're getting a
00:32:53:22 - 00:32:56:23
my body tells me if I haven't done it for a few days, just that sit down space breathe
that you need to do something Belinda, you're getting a bit overwhelmed, you're getting a
00:32:56:23 - 00:32:58:21
bit this or that.
00:32:58:21 - 00:33:03:01
So yeah, and I never normally would have been able to gauge that because of my over
drinking.
00:33:03:01 - 00:33:03:22
So yeah, and I never normally would have been able to gauge that because of my over
drinking.
00:33:03:22 - 00:33:10:03
So yeah, I go with breaths, just something that's easy, not overwhelming, walk away and
take
00:33:10:03 - 00:33:17:22
big breath and I love that if you put a smile on your face you can feel you just relax
more it just it uplifts you so that that would be my go
00:33:17:22 - 00:33:19:03
big breath and I love that if you put a smile on your face you can feel you just relax
more it just it uplifts you so that that would be my go
00:33:19:04 - 00:33:19:19
that's definitely a great reminder of a really simple one.
00:33:19:19 - 00:33:21:05
that's definitely a great reminder of a really simple one.
00:33:21:05 - 00:33:23:00
that's definitely a great reminder of a really simple one.
00:33:23:00 - 00:33:23:07
And I think, you know, for those listeners who are working in offices or things like that,
you know, easy one, get yourself into a room, go for a walk outside and just try to,
00:33:23:07 - 00:33:25:02
And I think, you know, for those listeners who are working in offices or things like that,
you know, easy one, get yourself into a room, go for a walk outside and just try to,
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And I think, you know, for those listeners who are working in offices or things like that,
you know, easy one, get yourself into a room, go for a walk outside and just try to,
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because you can all have those frustrating days.
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because you can all have those frustrating days.
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Yes.
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You know, you know, when we were young, we've got little kids and yet, well, they do come
in and gate crash your toilet time, don't they?
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do every, but just anything.
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do you know, I also go and sit in the car, walk out to the letterbox.
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Yeah.
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Walk to the, if you're working, you know, corporate, walk to the toilet or this just, can,
there are little things you can do.
00:34:02:12 - 00:34:11:07
And so Belinda, it's been an absolute pleasure getting to know you a little bit more,
hearing more about your story and your experiences.
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So if someone wanted to get in contact or follow you along on your journey, where would
they find you?
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So if someone wanted to get in contact or follow you along on your journey, where would
they find you?
00:34:17:11 - 00:34:19:03
Tell me a little bit more about
00:34:19:03 - 00:34:19:11
Tell me a little bit more about
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yeah.
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The best place is Instagram.
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So it's at Belinda Stark underscore.
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So it's at Belinda Stark underscore.
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I've got the website, Belinda Stark.
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I've got the website, Belinda Stark.
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If you wanted to have a little look -see at the shop, it's called Sissy.
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It was named after two sisters.
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So I kept the name.
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that's Sissy, S -I -S -S -Y.
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that's Sissy, S -I -S -S -Y.
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And it's in Mount Eliza in Victoria.
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So it's -T -E -L -I -Z -A.
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And on that, I'm a bit
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playful than I am on my coaching Instagram in that I do some styling tips and sometimes I
have a blooper.
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playful than I am on my coaching Instagram in that I do some styling tips and sometimes I
have a blooper.
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So you really get to know me from both spectrums of my two careers.
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So you really get to know me from both spectrums of my two careers.
00:34:55:23 - 00:34:57:23
So that's where you can find
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So that's where you can find
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Thank you so much, Belinda, for taking the time to have a chat with me on the Style and
Strategy podcast.
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Thank you so much, Belinda, for taking the time to have a chat with me on the Style and
Strategy podcast.
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I've really enjoyed our conversation.
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Amazing.
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Thanks, Belinda.
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Thanks.
